In Tajikistan, the dispute about virginity ended with the suicide of the bride

In traditional Tajik society, it is believed that a girl should be chaste, and if she is not married to a virgin, she can be put out of door with disgrace. That is what happened with Rajabbi Khurshed. The husband, after the wedding, accused her of not being a virgin, and the woman later committed suicide.

Both times Khurshed’s virginity was confirmed, but Pirov insisted that the doctors were mistaken and demanded that his wife “tell the truth.” Later, he also began to demand that Rajabbi allow him to take a second wife.

The conflict between husband and wife lasted almost a month, after which, according to Pirov, the wife nevertheless gave him written permission to take a second wife and in the same document admitted that she herself was not a virgin at the time of marriage, Pirov told reporters of the Tajik service of Radio Liberty "

When her husband said that she should return to her parents, the woman drank a “lethal dose of vinegar” (the wording in official documents). A few hours later, she died in the Chorbog hospital in the Vose region of the country.

According to her family, before her death, she said that since her wedding night she had been under enormous pressure from her husband and “couldn’t take it anymore.”

According to Tajik law, before marriage, girls and boys must undergo a medical examination and pass a genetic analysis (to exclude closely related marriages), as well as tests for HIV, hepatitis and other diseases.

HIV carriers and people with hepatitis cannot officially register the marriage.

According to the results of the inspection, Rajabbi had two certificates - about the genetic examination and the health certificate.

“When I found out that her husband had taken her to Dushanbe for a second examination, I went to them and said that I wanted to take my daughter with me. But Zafar’s mother assured me that the misunderstanding had been settled and there was no cause for concern,” says Fazila Mirzoeva. “I saw my daughter twice, she didn’t complain. Only on the eve of her suicide did she say that she had been slandered.”

According to Fazila, her daughter had never complained about her fate before. She, for example, had previously been forced to quit school to help parents care for two disabled brothers.

Rajabbi's husband, in a conversation with Radio Liberty journalists, continued to insist on his version. He confirmed that his wife drank vinegar “when I told her to return to live with her parents,” Pirov said. – I feel remorse. I didn't want her to die. But I wanted her parents to return 13 thousand somoni (about 1500 dollars), spent on the wedding."

The Vose district court took from Pirov a written undertaking not to leave the court until the beginning of the trial, the date of which has not yet been set. If his fault in bringing his wife to suicide is proved, he faces from five to eight years in prison.

The Rajabbi family wrote an open letter to President Emomali Rahmon and other officials to intervene and restore the good name of Hurshed.

Every year, hundreds of people turn to the Republican center for forensic examination in Dushanbe to establish the virginity of young women. Usually, this is done by parents of girls who are accused of not keeping chastity.

Accusations of no-action and domestic violence are the main reasons why, according to international organizations, at least one woman in a day kills herself.

Often young wives hide what is happening to them and try to “not wash dirty linen in public,” but such secrecy ultimately only leads to tragic consequences.

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